The internet is dragging a man down for not inviting his wife to a party for fear of having to “babysit” her throughout the event.
Posted on the r/AmITheA**hole Reddit forum, a man with the username u/throwawaysbdayswife shares his story with the “AITA” community so they can weigh in if he messed up. The viral post has 3,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Reddit user begins by explaining that his best friend at work, “Rick”, was having a birthday party. The party was held in a bar and was more relaxed than a sit-down restaurant, so spouses were also invited. His wife thought it was a work related party but the original poster (OP) explained that it was a celebration.
“I was honest and told her it was because I wanted to have fun and I didn’t want to have to babysit her. She’s outgoing and can easily make conversation with new people she meets, but I wouldn’t meet anyone at the party like her.” she hasn’t met any of my colleagues before. This would mean that I would feel like I have to accompany or check on her frequently. I can’t just kick back and enjoy the party,” she wrote.
“She has some social anxiety. So she likes it when I keep an eye on her or stay close when we’re in a larger group. That’s why I feel like I’d have to take care of her and I just want to have fun and not think about these things,” she continued.
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His wife chided him for making her feel like a burden. She explained that her feelings were hurt and that the OP didn’t want her to meet the people she worked with. She also argued that she is a stay-at-home mom with two young children and that she doesn’t get to go out much.
“I told her I’d be happy to introduce her to my colleagues, but I offered to host a dinner party to do it, but I just want to have fun and party at this party, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. She’s currently being cold and I don’t like her.” speech “.
Other Reddit users were quick to comment on their thoughts.
“[You’re the A**hole]. Introducing your outgoing wife to her colleagues will hinder her fun as she will feel like a babysitter. Are you serious? instead, she stays home with her young children while you focus entirely on having fun. [A**hole]”u/nikokazini criticized the OP, receiving over 13,000 upvotes on his comment.
U/CensoredZebra wrote: “[You’re the A**hole] yes, friend, you suck. First things first, maybe I’m a weirdo, but my SO is my best friend, I always ask him to go places with me and seeing how he is during a party wouldn’t really be a drag on me.”
U/Great_Clue_7064 questioned the OP, “[You’re the A**hole] and also, who is the woman you hope to flirt with at this party? Hope it’s worth the alimony, bro.”
“You didn’t make your wife sound clingy, you just made it sound like you don’t want to feel ‘forced’ to check on her during the party every once in a while, which does make her feel like you think of her as a burden, asshole,” he continued. The commentator.
U/NoxWild said, “You just don’t want her there. You’re making up a scenario where you’ll be overwhelmed by her needs and not able to have fun. It’s weird that you think her presence means you won’t.” Not being able to have fun and have fun. You plan to do? An impromptu striptease? Make out in the corner with Jane from Accounting?
news week She reached out to u/throwawaysbdayswife for comment.