Katie Maloney is explaining what led her to file for divorce from her husband tom schwartz.
Almost a month after Vander’s Bomb Rules The couple first confirmed the end of their marriage with statements on their Instagram pages, with Katie revealing what Tom could have done to save their relationship before recalling their commitment issues and suggesting he was never on her side.
“I really thought we were going to make it work,” Katie shared on the April 10 episode of the show. We met at Acme podcast, via E! News. “I felt that we had overcome many things together. I felt that we had grown together and thought that we would continue to grow together. I was very optimistic.”
Although Katie and Tom discussed plans to start a family in February, Katie admitted that she began to question the future of her marriage late last year. And, if Tom had experienced a “wake-up call [or] an epiphany,” which could have changed the direction their relationship took.
“I had been expressing my feelings and where I felt like I wasn’t getting my needs met and where I thought I was hurting myself by some of the behavior, and I don’t think he understood or resonated or agreed,” she explained. “I think he thought he was going to get over it or something.”
While Katie blamed herself for her role in her challenges with Tom, noting that she was a “bad drunk,” she said that she was making an effort to improve but didn’t feel like he was doing the same. And, after expressing herself to Tom, she recalled that he “didn’t really do anything.”
After Katie decided to file for divorce, which Tom “didn’t necessarily agree with,” she didn’t fight.
Currently, Katie and Tom live together in their $1.9 million home in Los Angeles. But that hasn’t stopped Katie from thinking about dating. In fact, after spending the last 12 years in a relationship, she said she looks forward to meeting someone new “the old-fashioned way.”
“You would think that after being with someone for 12 years and all this, I wouldn’t be ready for it, but I feel like I am and I would be depressed about all of it,” she said.
Also on the podcast, Katie admitted that she saw “red flags” before marrying Tom.
“I felt like he was always very commitment-phobic,” Katie admitted, via Just Jared. “And I was, you know, wanting to take natural progressions, [getting married] It was always something I wanted. And he was being naughty. So I thought, you know, it’s time for you to make a real commitment.”
What pump rules fans will remember, Katie infamously gave Tom an ultimatum. And, after he gave in to her demands, they arranged a wedding in Northern California.
“And of course now I am the one who has filed for divorce. So it’s funny how life works,” Katie noted.
As for Tom’s “people-pleasing” tendencies, Katie said that it bothered her a lot.
“That also manifested itself with him always having other people’s backs and not having my own. He wasn’t necessarily on my team in a lot of ways and that’s fine. I didn’t need to be right about everything, but I didn’t need to be alone about everything either,” she shared. “She always tended to side with his friend or anyone else. That was a common thread throughout the relationship that was frustrating for me.”
Katie added that while dates with Tom will be “weird,” she doesn’t think she’ll be hurt by it.
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